看完这个演讲，第一个想到的就是”没头脑“和”不高兴“，然后就是马男里的Zoe和Zelda。（这里有马男的粉丝吗？）我们常常说要做自己，但是自己又是谁呢？

今天的TED演讲，或许可以解答这三大哲学问题之首，给你一个答案。

I'm uncomfortable putting people in pigeonholes. I don't even think pigeons belong in pigeonholes. So what is it that makes us different? It's the doings that we have in our life -- the personal projects. You have a personal project right now, but nobody may know it here. It relates to your kid -- you've been back three times to the hospital, and they still don't know what's wrong. Or it could be your mom. And you'd been acting out of character. These are free traits. You're very agreeable, but you act disagreeably in order to break down those barriers of administrative torpor in the hospital, to get something for your mom or your child.

What are these free traits? They're where we enact a script in order to advance a core project in our lives. And they are what matters. Don't ask people what type you are; ask them, "What are your core projects in your life?" And we enact those free traits. I'm an introvert, but I have a core project, which is to profess. I'm a professor. And I adore my students, and I adore my field. And I can't wait to tell them about what's new, what's exciting, what I can't wait to tell them about. And so I act in an extroverted way, because at eight in the morning, the students need a little bit of humor, a little bit of engagement to keep them going in arduous days of study.

我不喜欢把人放进鸽子笼里，然后贴上标签。我甚至觉得鸽子都不应该待在鸽子笼里。究竟是什么让我们与众不同呢？是我们一生的所作所为——我们的个人事业。你们大家都有个人事业，但可能谁都没有意识到。也许这事业跟孩子有关——你已经去医院三趟了，医生们还是查不出你孩子的病因。或者生病的是你母亲。你会做一些跟你的性格不相符的事情。这些是可变的性格特点。你本和善可亲，却表现得咄咄逼人，只为了对抗如今医院里无处不在的懒散风气，让自己的母亲或者孩子得到及时治疗。

这些可变的性格特点到底是什么？那是我们演的一出戏，为了达成我们生命中最重要的目标。而这才是最重要的。不要问别人是什么性格的人，而要问他们，“你们生命中最重要的事是什么？”然后我们身上的可变性格特点就会被激发。我是一个内向的人，但我最重要的事业是教书。我是一名教授。我热爱我的学生，也热爱我的事业领域。我总是迫不及待地想与他们分享，那些新奇有趣的事情。因此我会表现得像一个外向的人，因为早上8点，学生需要一点幽默，需要一点激励，才能熬过一天紧张的学习。

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